I have found myself upset at times. Why
? Because in my relationship, it always seems that I am wrong, and she is always right. This frustration came years ago because every argument seemed to feel like I was wrong, and she was right. If you think like me, then you too may be the recipient of feeling wrong but assuming you are right. I must admit I have been right many times, but I have been wrong more. Let me explain. I may have been right in what I was saying, but I was not right in my motives. You see, I like to be right and let everyone know I am right. That makes it wrong. If you know me a little, you will know I like basketball. In basketball, someone can make a shot, and it's no more than a basketball shot. Then you can have another individual make a shot, and they begin hitting their chest, pumping their fist and yelling at the crowd like they are the man. The latter was me. I was not hitting my chest, but I was placing myself on a pedestal of arrogance.
I believed that only I was privileged to having wisdom and understanding. This belief made discussions challenging in our homes. You see, when you do not fight fair, it can make it impossible to have meaningful conversations. This is where a discussion can go around and around in circles because humility is not a part of the discussion. The idea that someone must be right no matter what, at any cost, is dangerous. You do not always have to be right. I have learned that being a listening ear will assist in the growth of the relationship. By allowing the other party to speak and be heard, you will find that openness breeds the freedom to express in a healthy way that is non-toxic to the relationship. If you are someone that has always to be right, it can lead to communication shut down. When a person shuts down, you have the shell of the individual but not the heart. We have experienced a shut down in America and seen that it prevents access. By preventing access, you will have a slow breakdown, and when it opens back up, you may have lost too much in the process.